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Husband: Educate Your Spouse on “Women Emancipation”

There are some relationship arrangements programmed by nature before the beginning of human race. Few of these include men going to fight in times of war and giving protection to the women; men providing for the needs of the women; and men asking for the women’s hands in marriage.

However, modern socialization has viewed some of these natural arrangements as a means of denial of women’s rights in their relationships with men and in the general affairs of human activities. The identified “denied rights” of women include but not limited to the following:

• ·         the right to bodily integrity and autonomy
• ·         the right to be free from sexual violence
• ·         to have equal rights in family
• ·         the right to hold public office
• ·         the right to work and to earn good or equal pay
• ·         to have reproductive rights, and
• ·         the right to education, among others.

The women believe that if they have all these rights they would be free from the “authorities” of men over them. Hence, the advocacy for Women and Girls Emancipation.

By natural law and common sense, nobody should abuse the right of any other person. Let us narrow this down to the relationship between a woman and her spouse. Women Emancipation needs to be redefined in its proper context. It is the ability of women to get office appointments, political appointments and other competitive appointments but not to dominate marriage. Women Emancipation makes us to understand that since woman can be President, she can also be husband. Women can be Presidents, Prime Ministers, Governors or Chief Executive Officers but woman cannot be a husband. Husband should not be seen as a position, a rank or an office. Husband is an ordained responsibility for the man alone.

A woman can be more educated and/or richer than the man, but she cannot be the husband in their relationship. Until women come to realize and accept that their “emancipation advocacy” will never come to a place where they will become the husband, otherwise the expected peace in the nucleus family, which is very crucial to the peace in world families may continue to elude the entire Universe.

It is important to know that the divine standard of marriage is for the wife to respect the husband while the husband is expected to love his wife. A man’s desire from his wife is not good food, he can get that in a restaurant; it is not sex, he can have that from any woman; it is not attire, someone else can entice him with that. The only thing that a man heartily desires from his wife is respect.                                                                    

Some women could be grossly disrespectful to their husbands under the claim of Women Emancipation. Women can easily loose respect for their husbands particularly when in need of something from the men and it is not forthcoming as expected. At this point they nag and abuse the man. If he refuses to respond, she throws harder abuses at his heart until he’s emotionally provoked to physically retaliate. Some men can absorb this provocation for a considerable longer period of time, even running to years in the relationship, while others cannot endure such emotional torture. Hence, they react by physically abusing the woman. At this point, a third party may be attracted by her crying and yelling; the man is immediately tagged as the perpetrator. However, the truth of the matter is that the woman actually initiated the emotional abuse on the man which generated the response of physical abuse from the man. This does not, however, rule out the exceptions of few men who physically abuse their wives for just no cause.

Another method adopted by the women to establish their emancipation agenda in trying to be the “husband” in a relationship is through a method of control comparison. Women compare a lot. If you don’t have a car, women will compare you with a neighbour that has one. If you do have a car, they will compare you with a friend that has a better one. As such, they try to put the man in a perpetual emotional bondage which may adversely affect the life-expectancy of the man.     

 

References:

(i)                  Understanding and Managing Extreme Abuses in a Relationship and Marriage –Apostle A. Valentine Ngwa.

(ii)                Women’s right – Wikipedia.org